By Dr. Hope Murphy
In the next few months, our family will gather to watch the classic film, It’s A Wonderful Life. Although it is billed as a Christmas movie, we watch it at different times throughout the year. In the film, the main character, George Bailey, feels that his life is not worth living. He believes that he has accomplished very little. At a point of desperation, he wishes that he had never been born. The storyline is that George gets his wish. As a result, he discovers exactly how valuable, “Wonderful”, his life has been.
As we move through the everyday of our lives, at times we may feel like George Bailey. We may wonder, “Does my life/marriage really have any meaning? What happened to my plans and dreams? Am I/are we really making a difference?
Unlike George, we are not going to be miraculously transported so that we can see the world without us. However, we can begin to see the value of our marriage relationship more clearly as we begin to think about the most meaningful moments in our lives such as the day that we got married, the birth of a child, and other special moments that we have shared together.
Sometimes, viewing our marriage through a rearview mirror can help us to have a more positive outlook on what is ahead. Of course, good marriages don’t just happen, they require intentionality. So, verbally tell your spouse how much they mean to you. Spend time writing down the things that they do like making your dinner, caring for the children, working to support the family, taking out the trash, sharing dreams. Don’t take the big or the little things for granted. You will most likely find that your marriage is extremely WONDERFUL.
Last month, Mark and I celebrated 25 years of marriage. I am amazed by how quickly the years have passed. During the next 25 years, I am committed to maintaining balance in my work, life, family, spiritual dimension. I want to let go of the things that don’t matter. Most of all, I want to spend more time being thankful and appreciating each and every moment. I don’t know how much time we have left, but I do know how I want to spend it: appreciating the man I married, laughing and smiling more, raising a family that honors God, and recognizing that we do in fact have a most Wonderful Life.