Is it OK to be angry?

By Dr. Hope Murphy

Be angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath. Ephesians 4:26

angerWhen our spouse does something that we don’t like, do we have the right to be angry? Suppose it’s something that we have talked to them about previously …. After all, shouldn’t they know better?

The reality is you may have been wronged by your spouse in a way that you don’t appreciate. As you consider the occurrence, you may become increasingly angry, especially if you pair their wrong with all that you have done right for THEM and for others.

Ephesians 4:26 says “be angry, and sin not.” That means there is a right way and a wrong way to handle the emotion of anger. The right way is to confess it to God and to acknowledge, “God, I am really angry about this. I don’t want this to get out of hand and to consume me and my marriage. So, Lord, I am asking you to show me how to handle this in a way that doesn’t cause conflict in a way that neither of us will be taken advantage of or for granted.”

As you pray, you should experience forgiveness in your heart. If not, ask God to help you to forgive and to release the anger.

Do not address the matter with your spouse until you ask God to give you needed wisdom for the right time to talk to your spouse—peacefully and in love. You may need to address the matter at a different time or it may be something that you need to let go.

Jesus loves you and wants the best for you. He wants your marriage to succeed.

Helpful Resource:
Confronting without Offending by Deborah Pegues

 

Posted: July 1, 2015 / Categories: Marriage Talks
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